Monday, September 23, 2013

Three Disciples And Their Wives

Ephesians 4:13, “until we all attain to the unity of faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a mature man, to the measure of the stature which belongs to the fullness of Christ.”

There are three disciples of Christ, all married, all from consecutive generations. The first disciple is the oldest, and has been walking in a surrendered life to Christ perhaps the longest, or at least most intensely longer than the other two disciples to whom he mentors and befriends.

This first disciple is wholly dependent upon God for his provision. He in essence purposefully wanders the streets daily jumping into whatever mire has befallen the individuals he meets, hoping to illuminate the love of Christ, and the truth of the Father. The God of Just Enough, the God that supplies needs usually speaks to enough hearts throughout the course of time that the disciple’s family is well cared for without any traditional job or continuous source of income. He is married and his wife has come to a place closer to unity in his faith, and mature in experience that she has become expecting for God to come through when the occasional lack presents itself, like a busted a/c unit, unexpected medical bills, or even taxes.

The second disciple, like the first us wholly dependent upon God for his provision as well. His ministry is more traditional as a pastor, though his church rarely if ever through offerings if able to give him and his family a meager existence. Over time he has been forced to become reliant on faith and the reoccurring financial miracle of God. This uncertainty still to this day produces the occasional anxiety in the disciple. His wife and barometer of faith can and does sense when he is spiritually nervous about their financial future. This tension is much higher in times of financial need than with the first disciple and his wife. Or at least that is the appearance on the surface. But they have come to accept that they must press on to God, even while the wife recognizes the fear.

The third disciple, like the other two is wholly dependent upon God for his provision too. Though his profession looks starkly different than the two “ministers” he is compensated on a commission basis therefore dependent upon God to provide the proverbial game to feed his family. His wife, much more responsible with money handles the household finances, and when times of lack appear the disciple more than hears of it. Or perhaps like the second disciple, perhaps the wife recognizes the lack of faith, perhaps the anxiety of the third disciple permeates the relationship, and a fix is not only in order, but demanded.

And so for September 2013 all three disciples find themselves thousands of dollars short of meeting their current obligations. In full awareness of this the first disciple obeys God and cries out to Him with a very public prayer. Not repeatedly mind you, but one time makes his request to God. A few days later he takes a Friday afternoon off to go to a movie with a friend. As they watch the movie the disciple tells the friend, “wouldn’t it be nice to know that what we are doing this very moment is of God?” Literally minutes later the phone rings. It is the disciple’s wife calling to say that a $5000 check just arrived in the mail. And once again God has met his needs. Excited he texts the second disciple the news.

The second disciple, who was also obeying God by simply trusting to receive… no commands to cry out, or beg, or even ask receives the text with wonder, wonder if God was going to come through for him as well. All the while knowing fully that his bills would be late if not paid by Monday. Later that day the couple found in their mailbox an envelope containing an anonymous typed note, and a cashier’s check for $5000. Also was included three $100 bills earmarked specifically for his wife.

The third disciple went to a family member and asked to borrow the money. Dejected, feeling like a spiritual failure, feeling his faith failed him the third disciple shared as he heard the stories above.

And with clarity the first disciple explained the living parable. Our wives are in our lives in part to be that faith barometer. They, more than anyone else in our life, know when to call bullshit. They know when we are living it, and when we are pretending. They, more than anyone else, sense our anxiety or lack of faith. God uses these situations to affect us all, to bring us all into conformity with Christ. For the third disciple there is a lesson of lack of faith that manifested as irritability that needs to be replaced with joy and peace. For the wife, there too are lessons of faith that are to be independent of the husband. For the parents who loaned the money, God has a whole other issue to be worked on in anything less than their obedience.

For everyone, the givers, the receivers, the other participates… it all is God at work to prefect unity of faith, to increase everyone’s maturity in Christ. In all three cases that stature of Christ has been measured, and for one found a little more than the other, to which was found a little more than the third. But in every case God provided. What is done with the lesson is up to those who lived it. 

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